How pure are you?

cigaretteWhen you put money into a retire­ment fund, do you check if that fund sup­ports the tobacco industry?

If you buy baby for­mula, do you check if that com­pany mar­kets their for­mula aggres­sively to new moth­ers in devel­op­ing coun­tries — at the expense of their children’s health?

It’s hard to be pure in this world. Most deci­sions end up being the best of the mix we can find. Or we may not exam­ine all the fac­tors that go into a decision.

I’m often too lazy to exam­ine my deci­sions. And some­times I know the poten­tial down­sides to a deci­sion, but I make it anyway.

My friend Tim Gier, a vegan, makes most of his deci­sions with a very focused approach. I admire that.

What’s a deci­sion you made that you later regretted?

Laws are good

Bus lane cameras in LondonWe all need help obey­ing the law.

If you look care­fully at the bot­tom left cor­ner of this photo, you’ll see a “Bus lane cam­eras” sign, remind­ing dri­vers that if they drive in the bus lane, a cam­era will take a pho­to­graph of their license plate (or “reg­is­tra­tion tag,” as it’s called in Lon­don, where I took this pic). Then the gov­ern­ment will send a large fine to the dri­ver for break­ing the law.

This lit­tle sys­tem allows buses to move much faster than if the bus lanes were clogged with cars who shouldn’t be there.

Sim­i­larly, in my state, red light cam­eras are at almost every inter­sec­tion. It’s the same deal — if I run a red light, I will get a huge fine. It amounts to a tax to help cash-starved local gov­ern­ments — but it also keeps me from run­ning a red light.

What enforce­ment sys­tem in your world keeps you on the straight and narrow?

Men are different from women

Photos of outfitsYou know that men are dif­fer­ent from women. I know that too.

I’ve been mar­ried to Heather for more than 20 years. I love her and am always amazed that after all these years, we are still dis­cov­er­ing new things about each other.

She started a new con­tract job recently at a large com­pany that has a fairly for­mal cor­po­rate cul­ture. She has to “dress up” to go to work. Some morn­ings involve a cloth­ing cri­sis before the right out­fit is found.

Now this is partly a per­son­al­ity thing, but it takes me about 5 sec­onds to choose what I’ll wear to an event or a work sit­u­a­tion. Heather delib­er­ates till she finds the per­fect out­fit. Since she has really good taste, she scores. (I don’t always score, but she often will warn me of impend­ing mistakes.)

So I came up with an idea to save her time in the morn­ing. What if I took pho­tos of each of her out­fit com­bi­na­tions and she could just flip through the set of pho­tos to choose the out­fit for a par­tic­u­lar day?

No. She didn’t like that idea. Why? “You just wouldn’t under­stand.” (True.)

Recapturing that lost childhood

Matchbox Mustang No. 8Dur­ing the sum­mer, I saw an amaz­ing toy car col­lec­tion worth thou­sands of dol­lars. It was not in a museum — but in a home office. Few peo­ple beyond the col­lec­tor, his wife and daugh­ter ever see these cars.

So why would he invest so many hours and and so much money in that? (One small set alone is worth about $1,000.) My the­ory is that he is try­ing to recap­ture some of his lost child­hood. He remem­bers when he saved up and bought those cars when he was a kid. As a pro­por­tion of his income, the lit­tle cars might be sim­i­lar in what they cost him today, maybe.

I col­lect lit­tle cars (in spite of my pri­mary empha­sis on col­lect­ing dig­i­tally). I don’t pay very much for them. I don’t col­lect very many. But to any­one who vis­its my home office, they will see prob­a­bly 6 or 7 lit­tle cars lined up, look­ing at me. Am I try­ing to recap­ture some of my lost child­hood? Maybe. Mostly I just like cars and it’s fun to see those lit­tle cars every day.

What’s the dif­fer­ence between the pre­vi­ously men­tioned col­lec­tor and me? He goes to great lengths to find spe­cific mod­els. He’s will­ing to pay a ton when he finds the pearl of great price. I just ran­domly pick up a Tra­bant when I see it at Wal­greens. Or a friend will give me a Mini.

By the way, the model shown is from the amaz­ing col­lec­tion. (He very kindly let me take sev­eral pic­tures — which are in now my dig­i­tal col­lec­tion.) That Mus­tang is one that I owned when I was a boy. Today on eBay with the box it costs $100. Sadly it won’t regain a place of honor in my collection.

Listen to that advice

Flooded basementA year ago, our friend Jack said our water heater was prob­a­bly going to break soon — and he rec­om­mended get­ting it replaced.

We though, “Why spend the money today? It prob­a­bly has 2–3 years left, and we’ll get a new one when we feel like we can afford it more.”

So Sat­ur­day morn­ing, it broke and flooded our base­ment. Thank­fully, recov­er­ing from the flood cost no more than a Sat­ur­day after­noon and a sore back. But I would have avoided both if I had lis­tened to Jack’s advice.

So my advice to you is this: please lis­ten to your plumber, your doc­tor or your car mechanic when they say it’s time to get that work done. They prob­a­bly know more about the prob­lem than you do. And it may cost you more than a Sat­ur­day and a sore back to fix that disaster.

How do you stay healthy?

BicyclingThat’s a ques­tion. I’d love to hear what you do to stay healthy. Please leave a com­ment at the end of this post. Why? Your healthy activ­i­ties and inter­ests might inspire me and other read­ers in new and inter­est­ing directions.

Here’s what I do:

- Ride my bike. I try to ride it places instead of dri­ving. This takes some plan­ning. And it’s rarely pos­si­ble with the whole fam­ily. (Those rides are usu­ally for leisure.)

- Exer­cise my arms and shoul­ders. Last Octo­ber, I pinched a nerve in my neck. A great phys­i­cal ther­a­pist gave me a set of sev­eral exer­cises that have kept that pain away. I do this 3 to 5 morn­ings a week, using a very sim­ple stretch device.

- Eat din­ner with my whole fam­ily. With two teenage sons and a ten-year-old daugh­ter, this is not easy, but we do man­age to share our evening meal­time about five days a week. This allows us to stay closer and keep up with what we are all doing.

- Read the Bible. This keeps me focused on what’s impor­tant. (If you’d like to explore this one, start with the book of Mark or Luke.)

Don’t go there

Today I’m guest post­ing over at Eliz­a­beth Howard’s Let­ters from a Small State. And I do want you to go there!

Enjoy. (And don’t get hit by the death ray.)

Deathray

We are connected

About the time you read this, I will have just left my Euro­pean sis­ter... we vis­ited Amy and her fam­ily in their now native Belgium.

I love her. We get along well. We have had our times of dif­fer­ences, but for the most part now we truly enjoy each other. It is a bit heart-breaking that we live so far apart.

Any­how, this art­work is from the out­side of a pack­age she sent. She re-used a pack­age our mom sent her. (Mom died around two years ago.) Amy can make art out of almost anything.

Thanksgiving

I know that it’s a long way from Thanks­giv­ing. But I’m thank­ful today. Two years ago, My mom passed away. I am thank­ful for her life and the indeli­ble influ­ence she had on me.

(This was a let­ter to the edi­tor of The Dal­las Morn­ing News that she got pub­lished on Thanks­giv­ing Day, 2000. You can see that she shared my love of writing.)

The loss of something

As life moves for­ward, we lose some things.

When I was a kid, my fam­ily had ency­clo­pe­dias. I used to enjoy sit­ting down and read­ing them. Or skim­ming them to find inter­est­ing arti­cles. Hours and hours of my child­hood were spent learn­ing that way.

Today, kids have Wikipedia and Google. Both offer huge advan­tages over ency­clo­pe­dias. But some things are lost. I won­der how many kids spend hours comb­ing Wikipedia for inter­est­ing articles.

I have a Kin­dle, and I love it. But it’s far from perfect.

Recently, I learned of a high school not far away that is “paper­less.” No books, except eBooks. Again, some good things come with that — but some things are lost.